Depending on where you are on your journey in life, this is the time of
year when you either sigh as the summer is dwindling away or flat-out
panic that fall is about to crash into you. It is also when most of us
begin to turn our thoughts back to our usual school, work, and church
schedule and activities. Shortly, the calendar section of the Sunday
bulletin and Highlights will re-expand, and we will return to our usual
levels of busyness.
Part of that
beginning-of-the-school-year ramping up is returning to church; for
quite a few of our neighbors and family, it may be finding a new
worshipping community here, either because their journeys have brought
them to Ithaca or because where they are on their life journey has
changed (children reaching an age when they want them to learn about
faith, etc.). So, whether you call it “church shopping,” visiting, or
“auditioning” churches, in late August and early September we can expect
more first time attenders.
So, welcome them!
Sure,
we should be welcoming to everyone anyhow, and folks here are really
good at that, but sometimes long-time members get shy. Often it’s not a
question of social graciousness, since most here can be warm and
welcoming. Often it seems we are terrified we will welcome long-time
members we think we should know and embarrass ourselves. Get over it.
Some of the material for generous welcoming suggests opening lines like,
“Hi! I’m David Ashby, and I don’t recognize you. It’s good to see you
today.” If someone answers, “Oh, I’ve been a member here for fifty
years,” you can talk about that. If someone says, “Oh, I’m visiting,”
you can then offer a big welcome and offer help with getting settled.
If visitors have children, tell them about Sunday School and offer to
show them the classroom. If you aren’t familiar with such things, hook
them up with someone who is. Help them get oriented to the building and
the worship service. Offer to sit with them. Actually the most
important piece of hospitality sometimes is telling visitors where the
restrooms are.
For all our sanctuary with the remarkable
quilts and the powerful music program and the spiritual formation we
offer children and youth, what matters to new attenders most is the
warmth and agreeableness of the people who inhabit our church. Show ’em
we’re nice. Simple as that.
One of the leading
Presbyterian bloggers I follow, Todd Bollinger, posted a couple of weeks
ago that their church was “no longer a welcoming church.” After that
rather provocative lede, he wrote that they had decided to become an
inviting
church! I kinda liked that. Welcoming, Bollinger said, is a somewhat
passive posture, whereas inviting hints at actively encouraging people
to worship and other church activities.
So that
idea pushes the conversation from the narthex out into the rest of the
week. You know people. You know a lot of people. You know people
seeking a spiritual community. Don’t be shy about asking them if they
would like to attend here some Sunday with you. With you. It turns out
in all the church growth literature, the personal invitation to attend
worship with you is the greatest key. A familiar face and someone to
sit with make a huge difference. You know people. You know this
church… you know what to do to bring them together.
So do it. OK?
Another of my crazy colleagues was a new church development pastor in a
suburb of Rochester some years ago, and he loved to end meetings with a
cheery, “Hey! Invite your friends to church… and maybe even invite
people you know you don’t like very much!”
Invite someone to join us
this Sunday (and the Sunday after that and the Sunday after that and…)
to meet this interesting lot of people on the journey of faith at First
Congregational.
In Christ,

David
This week we welcome to FCCI the Rev. Dr. Wayne Gustafson, well-known
to the congregation. Rev. Wayne Gustafson, is an ordained minister in
the United Church of Christ, a Certified Fellow in the American
Association of Pastoral Counselors, and a Licensed Mental Health
Counselor in New York. Presently, he is an adjunct instructor, teaching
Psychology at Tompkins Cortland Community College and a contract
pastoral counselor and psychotherapist with Susquehanna Family
Counseling Ministry.
From the Epistles Hebrews 11:29-12:2From the Gospel Luke 12:49-56